More true and applicable perhaps, than we practice to perceive. Relevance.
Significance, meaning, defining it!!!!
The apple does not fall far from the tree.
We either hear it when some one wishes to point out the short comings of offspring, and though rare, the similarities in positive traits.
But I wish to point out something today which falls in this context, yet is deceptive. It has the notoriety of sending offspring out into life with a mission which they thought to be in the nature of a worthy crusade, yet is actually a form of Self Condemnation.
A mission limiting one’s life, by occupying, serving as more of a distraction. Keeping one from a better deliverance at hand.
Let us begin with the word Syndrome;
a group of symptoms that consistently occur together or a condition characterized by a set of associated symptoms: “a rare syndrome in which the production of white blood cells is damaged”
We will be looking at a syndrome. It is perpetuated by the product, offspring of a typical household.
This is very simple, but I think overlooked for the most part.
I brought this to the attention of approximately 30 readers, years back on a online zine (faith writers). This is not a repost, but a offshoot from the same post (newly writ). I have no access to that post.
I hope they shared the lesson with others (lo these years).
This syndrome, this phenomenon occurs in the home.
1) Here is the model for this;
A child gets brought up by Guardians…..
What we might refer to as mistakes, poor judgements, incorrect disciplinary tactics are employed (we view them as such, lacking wisdom????). The Child subjected to such, has a sense, an assessing reaction, weighing in the correctness of this disciplinary tactic employed and they might react with a unsavory assessment of this treatment. Perhaps locking away in memory some resentment towards the Parent. Dressing the Parent up with some measure, crowning them with a area of lack.
Two things we should note (the first we don’t have time to go into except for the fact…)…
- A) The mistakes, the poor judgments, do not in truth point to the possibility of a Right way. There is no such creature. We are deceived in this area of speculation, due to our frailty. Parents have struggled with this possibility and gauge since the dawn of time.
We don’t have time to cover this, above.
B) This (below) is the common reaction from the offspring;
To simplify our objective, we give this ailment a banner and it goes like this…
“I will not do that to my kids!”
So we bring up our kids according to this observation, this assessment which came out from a painful experience. A hurt. A disillusionment.
Yes it carried some weight, in some cases we’ve carried that weight for numerous years, little did we imagine this would be a type of imprisonment. A shackling confinement which would prevent wonderful and lovely Spiritual gifts of a true Life to flow from us.
You see once something is spawned from criticism, from disappointment of expectations it becomes but the alternate side of the same coin of Irony. Fueled unexpectedly by the same affliction. After all, is it not “The two sided coin”?
The apple does not fall far from the tree, even when fueled by the converse.
Remember, if you have been living like this, sent out from the same abyss on a reverse mission, you have but been building a monument to frailty, fueled by hurt, by disillusionment, and openly, without realization, subjecting yourself to critical eyes also.
Even your own critical eyes. A subconscious sense of betrayal, “Have I betrayed well intentioned souls, proved unworthy of their sacrifices, in truth I am no better, and as frail”.
This can affect your health. You must quash this mission. Perform the last rites, perhaps shed a tear or two and bid the incident and loved ones who helped to set off this mission in your life, a fond farewell, with much love.
Yes, accept the fact that you too are in the same boat, imperfect, get rid of the little god of perfection, forgive them and in so doing acknowledge that you forgive yourself.
Only God is perfect.
Only His Spirit can guide us to make the better choice.
But it begins with recognizing human frailty. Forgiveness and His Love pouring out from us.
Understand that we all are a bunch of assessors. We assess. Having become the little gods, lured by our pride in Adam, thinking that we too can judge sin. Having done so, made the trade off for a petty thing, assessing with the absence of His Spirit, His love, His life. Better suited for self forgiveness and that of others.
Much love, and especially to the dear friend who inspired the return of this post. Sincerely; MAO
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