Yes, we settle.
We settle for “Role Play”. Unfortunately, in most life situations, we settle for learned, indoctrinated behavior.
Of course we do this, due to security. Identification with rewarded behavior. Comfort Zones, Value Zones identified with. But by settling, we stymie not only self, but those we come in contact with. Especially we should be concerned if we don’t lead the ones we have affection for, out of this fog.
Varied are the ways that this featured phenomenon transpires. We shall examine some, hopefully, employing correct and proper illustrations. Pray for me, this is not easy to cover.
My first night at the Belleview Men’s Shelter in Manhattan, NYC.
The population there is comprised of 85% released from prison inmates. Me, I was just homeless. Wish I could relate in this account what transpired between me and the Landlord who only wanted me out to enable her to redecorate and raise the rent to new prospects. As long as I stayed there she could do neither.
At the Shelter;
“In this place, if you look at a guy the wrong way, bang, they sucker punch you and…”, “In this place if…..” This was the extent of the conversation from a dude who approached me at the soda machine for 35cents. He went on and on. Negativity. Mind you I was a bit younger at the time and not only could defend myself but knew how to put a whole bunch of stuff into perspective. I take words very seriously, and loved what the word “perspective” had done for my anxiety.
This poor kid wouldn’t stop. I’d just met him.
I reached out, put a hand on his shoulder, and sincerely asked; “Is any one at this moment…” I covered several points he had made, such as “Looking at you like….”. Dirty looks etc..????
He paused, thinking….
“No.” was his answer, once I covered the spectrum of negative confrontations he had brought up.
“Well then, let’s talk about something else.” I said to him.
Point is responding to role play, I could’ve said, things in the vein of; “Yeah man, I hate that…”
Little did I know I’d made a powerful friend within that place. We were at the time intake classified.
This guy was the District President of a specific area for the Nietos and the Nietas in Puerto Rico. Tatin.
He ran a crew there (at the shelter) of about 40 who had sworn allegiance to the notorious gang. The ones here in America were reverential off shoots, not as serious or violent as the ones in Puerto Rico. This young man later wished to get off his chest to me, two murders, drug connected which he had committed in PR. There was no death penalty (in PR) and time off earned for good behavior.
He was a constant client there at the Shelter.
Sorry, I get carried away in detail.
But I did not play counterpart to the role play offered me in our first meeting.
I saw a post, on face book which prompted these thoughts.
The following was that Post;
“Everyone you meet, is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind, always.”
A great example of how easily people punch our Value ID’s and we role play, instant role play. A Phonograph needle stuck in a groove.
“Te pegan el bellon”; we say in Spanish, they put a nickel in you. They play you.
Think before you leap, still waters run deep (lyrics from a old song). We learn role play in the home as children. Juxtapositions to all the other ID’s with Value in the house. Parental pride when they see us play off one another, value ID’s learned. We grease the spokes on their wheels. Their value ID gets accreditation.
But those roles follow us.
Yes, they follow us.
We meet different players, and try to insert our learned roles, try to find a “rate of exchange”
The remarkable and puzzling thing is that the necessity for all those value ID’s are merely promulgated by the Void within.
The Void inherited from Adam, our Father, which Void he found within, with the absence of the Life of God he forfeited, through disobedience. Spiritual Death.
The only true Psychology, when it is founded upon that book man wants to relegate, discount, discredit as a “fairy tale, a myth”. Yes, the only true Psychology which can empower man is founded in The word of God.
The role play is deemed unnecessary when we find our center, our true role, relative to God.
Trust in the Son of God, Jesus Christ, fill that Void, be the empty vessel for the Life of God.
Disempower, a weak centered persona arising from the Void within.
I can be reached: at email@example.com, and
https://firstname.lastname@example.org, and at Facebook as Miguel Angel Oquendo. (Mickey, of Huachuca City, Az.)
Or you can contact these folk; Rev. Bob Schembre (Missouri), or Ministerio APG (My Brother, Pastor Angel L. Oquendo, Spanish and English, Florida) both on Facebook.