Here is an old post (Aug 19 2015). Unable to reblog it as it had already been reblogged, so here it is C/P ‘ed. Forgive this post appearing to be condescending, it just so happened that I endured a lot of criticism for my schools of thought in those days, and in a way that also contributed to discovering some communicative tools for them. And so here is one such below.
I hope you like it. The old post begins below. And Happy Thanksgiving (it is so today in America).
I will be giving you, in this post, a great gift.
As some of you know, the Lord, through the years has provided me with some extraordinary tools with which to assess human nature.
This is one of the sweetest and most remarkable. You don’t have to go and get a degree on Psychology to appreciate or understand the mechanics of this tool, and you can build upon it quite easily in retrospect.
It can simplify quite a bit about anxiety.
I call it UTM/ITU; you test me/I test you
When I tell you the delightful story of how this tool was tested in my experience, you just might see the logic of it.
Permit me a moment here. A lot of people read my stuff and just crawl back to their secure and protected lives. Illussion wise protected, preserving what they believe to be a “sanity”. What they actually protect is a construct of “reality” and not reality.
So, point is I would like to say that based on your familiarity with my work, but I can’t since most don’t come back.
But let me give you this delightful tool.
I had been experimenting with this idea knowing it to be quite logical. Quite applicable in theory. But came the day that it revealed itself to me in a life scenario.
Here’s the story;
I was a Nanny to three of my Granddaughters. Their Moms were working jobs and attending College.
On this morning I had prepared and served breakfast. Once done with that, all three had gotten dressed and packed their school stuff.
There was time now to help Mimi with preparation for a test she was to take on this day.
I made a makeshift test of the material. She took the test (20 questions) and failed them all. We went over the answers with corrections, of course. I prepared her the best I could, plus prayed for the best. I helped her with her coat as it was Winter time in NYC.. Mimi was the baby.
Right then, it was that she bagan her discourse.
She began to ask me one question after the other, and this questioning was all based on a field trip she had taken with her class. Animals and nature. I got all the answers wrong or just gave up, and she supplied the correct answer. There we were now directly across from her School, having walked there (me holding her lovely little hand).
It hit me…..
This is precisely that thing I had been developing; UTM/ITU
Yes, I admit, I did the proverbial slap on the forehead thing.
Allow me to present the breakdown of what just transpired;
UTM/ITU (one last time: you test me/I test you) is all about how representational things, situations, in life provoke us to anxiety by finding, concluding us as short, IE with lack, or lacking.
The wonderful premise is that because when under the presence (or scrutiny) of that thing we come up short, in order to diminish said anxiety produced by having come up short by that “thing, or situation”, we must do something to discredit it. And hence; ITU (I test you).
And so, her precious little head found in stock her field trip, and how many wonderful little facts she had retained from memory, so she conducted her onslaught against Grandpa, posing one question after the other. She was driven by her anxiety, by her lack, being assessed as short (contrast the upcoming test assessment).
First, at this juncture, it should be clear that there would be a great deal of things like this in life which when we find ourselves in proximity to them (those things which assess or threaten in our minds to assess us) we would react in being flooded with some anxiety. And yes you might see a clearer picture now of why a loved one or you yourself go on the defensive at times. This knowledge therefore can make us more compassionate towards one another.
You test me/I test you
If you cause me discrediting by your assessment of me….I’m left with no option but to discredit you that I may regain my foothold (diminish my anxiety).
This is the cause of many rebellions, fights, etc..
If this post has lifted a veil of confusion from around your life, I urge you to peruse my archives for more knowledge like this which God has seen fit to give me.
Thanks for the visit, I can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or on Face Book as Miguel Angel Oquendo (“Mickey” of Huachuca City, Az.)
Also these very reliable men might be near your area; Reverend Angel L. Oquendo (my Brother) at MinisterioAPG (Pembroke Pines Florida) on face book (Spanish and English), or Reverend Bob Schembre on face book also (Missouri