The Shy Individual

How does this individual come into being? What circumstances tend to forge this individual? Is this portrayal healthy? Does it speak of “restriction”, personality confinement? A withholding from one’s self of opportunities? Can it lead to a counterpart bid, an over exaggerated one?

I will stop here for I have more in this category which might take us too far afield of my parameters. Limitations.

First, let us address the tendency to be “foolhardy”. To in desperation, not happy with the tag, the “millstone” of shyness being saddled upon our person we crusade to “the contrary”.

You see…

It is never good to be launched out of a duality. Out from one side of the coin, from an opposite. IE; If we are made so uncomfortable with a label that we are compelled by it to depict, to belie it. Expend energy contradicting it. Such as the person who feels stifled, confined by a character of restricting elements, especially one resentfully construed, thus endowing one with “guilt”. So one takes it to an extremity (Some have made this mistake, believe me) and indulges in all kinds of debauchery thinking to deliver one’s self from a persona viewed as a handicap. This amounts to no more than a self-despisement.

Yes, it is true, sometimes People come full circle after such participations and find God.

My point however here is to single out how when we wish to escape the restrictions, inhibitions of a shy personality and employ resentfully exploitative methods intent on displaying rebellion, we do so out of fear, out of insecurity. And this aforesaid should serve as a caution to us not to engage in such behavior. We accumulate sorrows.

Yes, we might act foolhardy merely as a challenge to our restrictions. See….

God help us not to do such things.

Next, let’s jump to; Is this portrayal (being shy) healthy?

Answer; No, but…..

Don’t worry, for neither is it “Abnormal”

It is not healthy in this sense; There is no wholeness behind it. It is born of conflict. At odds with completion. But there is a simple explanation for this and we shall come back to this.

No, it is not abnormal. Simply because, everyone, with no exception, “portrays”, IE we are all actors upon the stage of life.

Just like them (all actors), what we portray is done so for Security, for Identification, for the need of Value. What we portray is governed by Prime Directives born out of our early indoctrination. Systems of works within our Psyche. Systems we have been indoctrinated into.

Don’t let all this talk frighten you, for all of this can be simplified, understood with clarity. Yes.  

Please return for part two of “The Shy Individual”

I can be reached at;, and, and at Facebook as Miguel Angel Oquendo. (Mickey, of Huachuca City, Az.)

Or you can contact these folk; Rev. Bob Schembre (Missouri), or Ministerio APG  (My Brother, Pastor Angel L. Oquendo, Spanish and English, Florida) both on Facebook.



    • Yes, like it or not we are creatures of faith. Sadly as is the case very frequently we buy into what we see and what we experience rather than what lies Beyond the reality we are indoctrinated into. I appreciate you guys you’re very astute and very committed to growing. May God bless your endeavors.

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