Pressured by family, by traditions we comply, yet not understanding the meaning behind such rituals. Yes, I understand showing respects, being “two faces” that you won’t hurt another’s feelings but….
address such practices, necessities in your life with the self-awareness of their significance, honesty, a knowledge of the construction of such exchanges.
I know of a situation where the guardian of an off spring who perished goes on for years publicly mourning the death of the child. Ritual after ritual is publicly enacted. Some corner (people) of that existence has alerted this person to cease. The person has fought back with sentiment; “You have no idea what it is like.”
The above is personal knowledge so permit me to clarify some left out facts. But of course, leave Superstition in the previous room, thank you.
I saw where this young person was headed years ago. I then accepted the challenge. I attempted to speak to this individual and the family fought tooth and nail: “Blank is not your blood, you have no right to attempt to school this person, you don’t love blank.” “Stop, leave “blank” alone.”
My response: “Okay, fine, but if blank continues on this route, blank will not make it to age 21.”
Blank did not make it. A bullet in the chest stopped blank. I was heartbroken. Blank had a place in my heart.
Blank was fam though not blood.
Oh, they had sentiment for blank but they never schooled blank but did allow blank to walk down the merry road of whimsy unschooled, unguided.
David prayed for the child while the child was yet alive. Upon hearing that no amount of further prayer was needed, he got up and nourished his own body, took care of self.
Despite public views, and opinion of this new perspective toward the death of the child. Now….
Here’s where it gets real and brutal;
This continued mourning for Blank is self-serving. This is born of guilt for things not done, an accountability not fulfilled. An obligation not fulfilled. Self-serving in an attempt to ease one’s conscience. IE: a work of the flesh. Not something God has asked for, neither assigned.
We cannot mourn the things we should have done, failed to carry out.
We take up the deed while there is yet time and not when it is too late. But yes….
This is a lost cause to explain this to this individual, in fact, all we can do is pray. However, David makes a case for this scenario.
A strong emphasis is a bid demonstrated here in the life of King David.
As for you, take care that you not support “Public” sentiment and accuse me of being callous. The Bible is clear, honest and objective. It is for grown ups, contrary to public opinion. It is not (contrary to public sentiment) asking for your sentiment but for your objectivity. Glory. God is awesome and beautiful but not for His Sentiment but for His Wisdom, His Clarity, His objectivity in presenting to us the hard facts.
The Child of God is not ignorant. Put that in your pipe and smoke it.
A ritual performed to cover one’s neglect of responsibility is a maintenance of a belief in one’s self, lying to one’s self as if one had been the good Steward. An attempt to fill the mind with illusions of perfectness.
It is gone, irretrievable. Accept the verdict of failure. Pick up the pieces from there. Look after the rest of your Stewardship.
Really, it looks like this individual will never learn.
This is where custom and sentiment can hurt us, prevent us from the reality the Bible attempts to teach us.
Thank you for putting up with me. I hope you can forgive me if I trashed your ideas of correctness.
I can be reached: at email@example.com, and
https://firstname.lastname@example.org, and at Facebook as Miguel Angel Oquendo. (Mickey, of Huachuca City, Az.)
Or you can contact these folk; Rev. Bob Schembre (Missouri), or Ministerio APG (My Brother, Pastor Angel L. Oquendo, Spanish and English, Florida)